I am a huge book worm but I used to think that personal development books were soooo stupid (HP for life right? đ€ŁâĄïž). I was so against the idea of self-help or anything of that nature even though my life could have definitely used some help lol. I started to see the impact these books were making on other people & started thinking maybe I was missing out on something. I finally picked up my first book & I never looked back. . Now, my day isnât complete unless I take the time to listen to a personal development book. I want to continue to grow & continue to help my mind grow. I want to make all those mental gains bc mental gains are the most important to me. I talk about my natural negative habits & personal development is the reason I have learned to actively seek positivity. One of my favorite books being âThe Energy Busâ đ . Do you guys listen to personal development!? If so, what is a book I need to have on my list!?
Happy Valentineâs Day from us to you đ . Canât believe this guy and I are celebrating our third Valentineâs Day together. Thankful I spotted you as a lifeguard at that beach themed party & stalked you on insta after đ€Ș Blessed to be with someone who is as weird as me & loves to stay at home as much as I do đ€Ł . Catch us staying in tonight, eating La Gondola, renting a movie, & cuddling with our pups đ
Your mind has a tendency to focus on the negative. . I used to be so negative. Constantly thinking the world was against me. Constantly filling my mind with negative self talk and self doubt. I donât think I had a positive thought in my head tbh. Your mind is like an empty glass & it will be filed with anything you put into it & mine was filled with negativity. . Being negative is almost like a natural thing to me. Itâs my go to so itâs hard for me to think positively but positivity has been a game changer in my life. Once I started surrounding myself with positive people & actively focusing on the positive, I started to see way more success in my own life. I started to create better relationships and I started to like the person I was more. . There will always be negativity that you have to deal with. There will always be people that disagree with you or try to bring you down. But you have the power to rise above & you have the power to choose positivity. You and only you are in control of those thoughts in your head. So fill your mind with all those positive vibes đ
Going on vacation used to be a struggle for me. . It would cause me to restrict myself heavily before & during, which led to binge eating. I was so worried about looking perfect for pictures & trying to make it look like I was confident & happy in the skin I was in. I also hated vacations because I knew after a vacation, I would become super sad. I knew it was time to go back to reality aka working full time at a job I hated & going to school full time. . I would get this big pit in my stomach as the vacation came nearer to an end. The night before I had to go to work I would cry... a lot. It would take me about two weeks to adjust and not have this dark cloud around me. I would finally start becoming my normal negative self.. not my SUPER negative self. . I was in the shower today (isnât it weird you always have epiphanyâs in the shower), and I just become emotional af. I didnât have a pit in my stomach & I wasnât sad. I was happy. So happy. Happy that I was happy to be home and back to my normal life. . I worked really hard to feel happy in the life I live. I worked really hard to feel confident in the skin I am in. Itâs crazy that one decision led me to this. One decision to take care of myself & put myself first, led me here đđ . . . P.s. If you want more info on what I do, check out my story đ
Just have to give this guy a big shoutout. I literally canât imagine not having his support đ . This weekend, he did not have to come with me. It was a lot of work events and a lot of speakers so we didnât get to exactly spend a whole lot of time together. But he knows that traveling gives me anxiety & I just feel more confident with him. From running me my badge I forgot (twice), steaming my jumper, hyping me up, and of course taking thousands of pictures of me, he was such a trooper. He has 100% always been by my side & I know I would not be half as far in this business without him. So shoutout to him for instilling belief in me when I didnât believe in myself & supporting me every step of the way. . Everyone deserves to have a support system like this & donât stop or settle until ya find it đ
I used to sit on the sidelines a lot. I used to WISH for a different life. To have freedom. To have confidence. To be happy. To spend time with my family. To love my job. Soo many things that I wished for but would do nothing about. Something was always pulling on my heart & I just felt like my life was meant for more. But, I was afraid. I was this shy, introverted, self-conscious girl. I doubted my worth and I doubted my abilities. I am not special, how could I do anything special with my life?? . The thing is, I am not special. But, I stopped giving into all of the limiting beliefs I had. I stopped putting myself down and I started telling myself I can. I stopped wishing, and I started getting to WORK. I was in charge, and if I wanted a different life, I was going to work my ass off to create it. . I am so thankful for that shy, introverted girl though. She didnât believe in herself that much but there was a tiny bit of hope inside her and that hope turned into belief & along side hard work, I am where I am at today đđ
True story: I dressed for 60 degree weather, not realizing it was going to be COLD AF at night in LA. Aka this skirt lasted about 2.2 seconds & I had to make a target run for a pair of jeans. They didnât have my size in jeans! So letâs just say, I am rocking some damn mom jeans tonight (see story) đ€Łđ€Ł
If itâs not maintainable, itâs not realistic. . A huge reason why I started & stopped so many damn times in my journey was because what I was doing wasnât maintainable. I used to think that eating healthy meant restricting yourself. I used to think that getting a âgood workoutâ in meant spending countless hours in the gym. No way in hell was that maintainable, so of course, I fell off the wagon over and over and over again. . I do not diet. I do not count calories. I do not count macros. I eat what I want to but I am aware of what foods make me feel good & what foods make me feel like shit. I workout for 45 minutes a day, if that, & my workouts are home based. . Here is a reality check for you. Any diet or exercise program you stick to and follow WILL work. You will see results if you are consistent but the more important question to ask yourself is, is this something that is maintainable for me & my lifestyle? . This is a lifestyle. Itâs about living your life in a healthy way and this lifestyle could do so much for you. It could quite literally change your life and the life of others around you. But you have to choose something that you can maintain so it does become a LIFESTYLE đ
LEG DAY IS THE BEST DAY đ€đŒ . Growing up in dance & tumbling, my legs have always been very strong. I used to be so self conscious of how muscular they were & they werenât what society deemed as âsexy.â Well f society because I am so proud about my legs! Itâs a huge reason I love leg day. My legs make me feel powerful, confident, and strong đȘđŒ . Here are some of my favorite leg day moves. I did three rounds of these exercises. Each round, I would do every exercise shown. For each move I did 10 reps. If I had to do it on both sides, I would do 10 reps on each side! The last exercise I did for a minute at the end of each round for a little burnout! . Donât forget to bookmark it to save it for later & tag your workout buddy so you can incorporate this for your guysâ next workout! . . . Outfit is @paragonfitwear!! You can use my code âKELSEYâ for a discount at checkout & to support me đđ @paragonfitwear
Itâs hard for me to admit, but I used to have a really hard time being happy for others. . I was constantly consumed by jealousy & never took ownership of my own life. When I would see someone trying to better their lifestyle, I would immediately feel envy. When I would see a happy couple, I would not feel happy for them. I hated it about myself but I just couldnât stop how I felt. . Then, I realized why I was feeling this way. I wasnât happy in my own life, so it was nearly impossible to be happy for others. I didnât want anyone else to see success in their fitness journey or in their relationship because I wasnât seeing success in my own. . Once I realized I was in control, I stopped bulshitting myself. I stopped making up excuses & I started putting in the work to help myself. I was tired of being this sulky, negative person. I am nowhere near perfect & I still struggle with this on occasion, but I can tell you being happy for others is so rewarding. Sincerely, genuinely, feeling joy for others & their accomplishments is the best feeling. . Just know, that if you have a tendency to feel jealousy rather than joy for others, youâre not alone. But, actively choosing joy is such a better way to live đ
Donât let your past define you, let it fuel you. . So many times we get caught up in our past & believe me, I am with ya. A little over a year ago, I would have used my past as an excuse to settle. To settle for a mediocre life & to blame it on everyone but myself. To settle for an unhealthy lifestyle because it was just too hard to change my habits. To allow myself to feel sorry for myself & sit on the sidelines. . This may be an unpopular opinion, but I do not think it matters where you come from. We all have the power to choose where we go. We all have the power to wake up & choose a different life. We may think we donât, but that is just a limiting belief. If you want to make something happen, you can make it happen. . Now, I let my past be the fuel to my fire. I want to prove that I can do whatever I set my mind to & so can you đ€đŒ
